A Girl Wrote an email
saying:
Assalam
Aleikom wa Rahmatullah wa barakatuh I hope you can be of use
to me in this problem: I'm a 17 year old Arab girl living in
an Arab country and still in high school.
Unfortunately,
I learned about the internet yet, I misused it and spent my
days chatting with guys and watching prohibited websites
(I
did such things behind my parents back and no one knew about
them) even though I used to be religious and hated girls who
chatted with guys.
I
then got to know a 21 years old guy-through the "Messenger"
living in the same country but of different nationality and
we went on chatting till we exchanged true and untainted love
"just for the sake of Allah".
He
used to educate me about teachings of religion and lead me to
righteousness and guidance. He allowed me to see him through
a camera, we sometimes prayed together.
Later
he started to show me parts of his body which in return caused
me to become an addict to the secret habit. Such situation went
on for a month in which we learned a lot from each other. We
maintained voice chatting and when I trusted him I allowed him
to see me, my hair and most of my body parts through the computer
camera. My love for him grew more and I thought only of him
and nothing else to the extent that I couldn't concentrate in
my studies, consequently causing my level of educational pursuit
to decline.
He
then told me about where he lived and so did I. I called him
on his mobile a while after that and checked the validity of
the information he gave me. He said he wanted to marry me, I
agreed to his proposal for marriage, although I'm supposed to
marry my cousin, yet I'm now so afraid of my parents' disapproval
especially after he started to threaten me saying: "If
you leave me I'll disgrace you and spread your pictures"!
Also he said:" I'll cal you using the numbers you dialed
to reach me and tell your folks all about you."
When
I discussed this matter with him he said that it was just threats
yet I feel that he is not threatening me and that he's really
going to do something, and now I'm thinking seriously of leaving
him and returning to the path of Allah.
My
parents are Muslims and religious and if they knew that I'm
in love with a guy and actually in contact with him they're
gonna kill me( by "kill" I mean beating and humiliating)
to avoid the scandal and bad reputation.
I
don't know what to do! I'm so scared;
I
want guidance;
I
want to be happy and safe;
I'm
sick of thinking and feeling scared.
Please
help me. Because of this problem I quit praying; I quit worshiping
in general because I'm bored and desperate with my life; my
sisters' reputation and futures-as well as mine- will be destroyed
if I don't die, and I want to, today before tomorrow.
I
want to leave him but I fear the scandal. He will call back
so how can I stop him? Will Allah forgive me if I return to
his path? What are the conditions of repentance and how should
I repent and?
I
fear that I may go back to what I used to do? Where's the way
out?
How
could I get rid of my addict to the secret habit? And now that
I suffer from sexual frigidity, how can I treat it without my
parents knowing about it?
I
seek your reply so bad; don't throw my mail away.
Please
help me as soon as you can; there's no one else to help me;
please help me, please.
The
sister's message is over; a message that is truly rich with
lessons and examples Is anyone out there willing to learn?
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She says: "I'm so scared; I want guidance; I want to be
happy and safe; I'm sick of thinking and feeling scared"
Wasn't she at peace and overwhelming bliss, following the path
of guidance and performing her prayers before stepping into
the hellish land of "Chat"? Why is she scared now?
Why did she quit praying? It's the ominous of disobedience that
deprived her of the pleasure of obedience. What was she looking
for in "Chat" vaults? Looking For happiness? She is
left now screaming "I want to be happy and safe".
How
weird the following words are:" My parents are Muslims
and religious and if they knew that I'm in love with a guy and
actually in contact with him they're going to kill me to avoid
the scandal and bad reputation (by "kill" I mean beating
and humiliating)" All this happened while the parents where
inattentive to their child; they've been so careless and so
wasting of the Trust. It's the ultimate confidence that parents
have specifically in young ladies which results in such a disaster.
A father may say: "I have sheer blind trust in my daughters
and my unmarriageable relatives in general". They're no
better than Mothers of the believers, nonetheless Allah Exulted
and Majestic be He said about their ethics:
" O Consorts
of the Prophet! ye are not like any of the (other) women: if
ye do fear (Allah), be not too complaisant of speech, lest one
in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire: but
speak ye a speech (that is) just";
and Said about the
Believers' ethics towards them:
" And when ye
ask (his ladies) for anything ye want ask them from before a
screen"
Why did He say that?"
that makes for greater purity for your hearts and for theirs".
Is anyone out there
willing to learn?
"Verily in this
is a Message for any that has a heart and understanding or who
gives ear and earnestly witnesses (the truth)."[Chapter
50, verse 37]
This message has
been mailed to me and I took permition from the sister to publish
it, and so I did with the exception her nationality.
Source: http://sisters.islamway.com/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=276
